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The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Why Your Narrative Defines Your Life
What kinds of stories do you tell yourself and others about your life? I am going to explain why the stories we create can be our greatest strength and also a place of challenge in the pathway of our individual evolution.
I am going to begin with a dramatic example.
I once watched a woman live her story for motivational purposes. She was a trauma survivor. Deep levels of abuse from a young age permeated her life. She had “healed”. She “did the work.” She wanted to tell her story so that others could heal, too. She then proceeded to leverage the experience as a teacher and motivational speaker and writer. It was working.
However…
Repeating the same story will create the same results. If your story is the same after you have healed as when the initial “trauma” occurred, you are not healed. You may have perspective. You may have begun the process. But you are not ready to declare any kind of mastery over the shadow if the story is still the same. And I absolutely recommend that you do not.
Example:
This speaker/writer would stand on the stage and repeat with emotion the abuses she endured. There was always a lot of detail. Listening felt voyeuristic to me. She had moved through many of the same kinds of circles I was familiar…
