How Forgiveness Can Change Your Life

When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.

— Katherine Ponder

When I was a girl, stuff happened.
Unfortunate things. Difficult things. Blessed things.

Let’s begin with this. Many, many, many of us grew up in traumatic circumstances. It doesn’t matter what that trauma was. Our perception and the effects of such traumas are dependent on alot of different things:
Our support systems, our biology, our age, social structures, etc. Trauma that happens when we are children is some of the longest standing kinds of experiences because our nervous systems and bodies are still forming. Trauma at an early age can affect the way our self-image develops and can lead to non beneficial behavior issues that perpetuate the environments in which the original traumas were produced. These circumstances can be damaging or self limiting. Either we unconsciously reproduce the energy of the original trauma or we create very strong walls that control our environments and lives and that cut us off from the world and diverse experiences that would otherwise grow us.